One of my favorite parts of this summer has been picking our kids up from camp.
Some days when we pick them up they’re exhausted. Sometimes they’re dirty, sweaty, or sunburned. Sometimes they immediately start talking and don’t stop for the entire ride home. Other days we have to drag the details out of them one question at a time.
And not every day has been amazing. There have been camps they loved, activities they didn’t, kids they clicked with, and days when they weren’t particularly excited to go back the next morning.
But every afternoon, I’m excited to see them. And I love hearing about a day that happened completely without us.
For a family that spends as much time together as ours does, that’s actually pretty unusual.

We Know Our Kids Miss Some Things
We love worldschooling. We love the freedom it gives our family, the time we spend together, and the ability to use the world around us as part of our kids’ education. We wouldn’t have chosen this path if we didn’t believe deeply in what it gives them.
But that doesn’t mean we think it gives them everything.
There are things our kids miss by not attending a traditional school, and I think it’s important to be honest about that. They don’t spend six or seven hours every day surrounded by a large group of kids their own age. They don’t regularly have teachers telling them exactly what they’re supposed to do and when they’re supposed to do it. They aren’t constantly navigating classrooms, schedules, group projects, recess politics, and all the other social dynamics that come with being one kid among many.
We don’t particularly want all of that every day. In fact, avoiding some of that structure is one of the reasons we love the life we’ve chosen.
But that doesn’t mean there’s no value in it.
Summer Camp Fills Some of Those Gaps
This summer, our boys have done sailing camp, mountain biking camp, rock climbing camp, backpacking camp, and theater camp.

On the surface, those camps have been about learning skills. They’ve learned to sail boats, ride trails, climb rocks, carry everything they need on their backs, and get on a stage in front of other people.
But I’ve realized that the activities themselves are only part of what I value about camp.
For a few hours each day, our kids become part of somebody else’s world.
Someone else sets the schedule. Someone else is in charge. If the counselor says it’s time to put the bikes away, then it’s time to put the bikes away. If the group is moving on to the next activity, they’re moving too. Our kids don’t get to negotiate everything with Mom and Dad.
That kind of structure is probably good for them sometimes.
They Don’t Have to Love Everything
Some camps were huge hits this summer. Others weren’t.
There were days when the kids couldn’t wait to tell us what they’d done. There were other days when they weren’t particularly excited about going back.
And I’m increasingly convinced that both kinds of experiences have value.
One of the wonderful things about having a lot of freedom in childhood is that kids can spend time discovering what genuinely interests them. But I don’t think that means every experience needs to be perfectly tailored to what they already know they like.
Sometimes you try something and discover a new passion.
Sometimes you try something and discover that you’d rather never do it again.
Sometimes you have a mediocre Tuesday and still go back on Wednesday because that’s what you signed up to do.
There’s something useful in all of those outcomes.
Being One Kid in a Big Group
The social piece may have been the biggest surprise for us this summer.
Our kids aren’t isolated. Far from it. They meet kids while we travel, participate in worldschooling communities, spend time with friends and family, and have plenty of opportunities to interact with people of different ages and backgrounds.
But it’s different from being dropped into a big group of kids and having to figure out where you fit.
Camp gives them that experience.
They meet kids they immediately like and kids they don’t. They have to introduce themselves. They join games already in progress. They navigate disagreements. They figure out group dynamics without us hovering nearby to help.

This summer, we’ve watched them make more friends and be more social than in summers past. That’s been wonderful to see, especially because so much of it has happened independently of us.
They don’t need us to arrange every interaction anymore. Sometimes we just drop them off and let them figure it out.
Other Adults Matter Too
There’s another piece of traditional school that our kids don’t experience very often: having unrelated adults in positions of authority.
When you spend a lot of your life learning as a family, Mom and Dad can become teacher, parent, travel planner, coach, rule enforcer, and just about everything else.
Camp changes that.
Suddenly there’s a sailing instructor, mountain biking coach, climbing instructor, backpacking leader, or theater director telling them what to do. Our kids have to listen to someone else’s instructions. They have to learn that adult’s expectations. They have to ask that person for help when they need it.
And we aren’t there to intervene.
I think kids need other adults in their lives. They need opportunities to build relationships with people who aren’t their parents and to discover that they can navigate those relationships independently.
Camp Gives Parents Something Too
There is also a considerably less philosophical reason that I love summer camp:
We get some time without our kids.
I don’t feel particularly guilty admitting that.
One of the greatest gifts of worldschooling is the enormous amount of time we spend together. It’s also one of its challenges. When you’re traveling together, learning together, eating together, exploring together, and often living in relatively small spaces together, uninterrupted work time can be hard to find.
Camp gives us a few glorious hours when we know the kids are somewhere safe, learning something interesting, and surrounded by other kids.
We can work.
We can get things done.
Sometimes we can just enjoy the quiet.
And then, at the end of the day, we’re genuinely excited to see each other again.
They Get to Have Stories That Aren’t Ours
I think this might be my favorite part.
When we travel as a family, most of our experiences are shared. If we snorkel with a sea turtle, we were probably all there. If something funny happens on a train, we all know the story. If we hike a volcano, we experience it together.
Camp gives our kids experiences that belong to them.

They get into the car and tell us about something funny another kid said. They explain what happened on the trail. They tell us about a game they played or something their counselor did. They know people we don’t know and have inside jokes we don’t understand.
For a few hours, they have a life completely separate from ours.
I love that.
We Don’t Need Worldschooling to Provide Everything
I think one of the traps of choosing an unconventional path is feeling like you need to prove that your choice is better in every possible way.
We don’t feel that way about worldschooling.
There are things traditional school does really well. There are experiences kids have there that ours don’t. Rather than pretending those things don’t matter, we’d rather recognize the gaps and find other ways to fill the ones we think are important.
Summer camp happens to fill a lot of them.
Our kids get structure without having their entire lives structured. They spend time in large groups without spending every weekday in one. They learn to listen to adults who aren’t their parents. They make friends without us facilitating the friendships. They try things they wouldn’t necessarily choose for themselves.
And then they come home.
We still get the freedom and family time that drew us to worldschooling in the first place. We just borrow a little bit from a more traditional childhood along the way.
Maybe that’s what I like most about the way we’re raising our kids. We don’t have to choose one model and accept every part of it. We can take pieces from different worlds and try to build the childhood that makes sense for our family.
This summer, some of those pieces involved sailboats, mountain bikes, climbing ropes, backpacks, and a theater stage.
They didn’t love every minute of it.
Neither did we expect them to.
But watching them walk away from us in the morning and then listening to their stories when they came back at the end of the day, I kept thinking the same thing:
This is good for them.
And, as it turns out, it’s pretty good for us too.











